As it gets closer to the big day, no matter how much you think you’ve got it together, stress becomes inevitable. You can’t avoid it, you can’t run away from it, you can’t put it off. If there’s one certainty about wedding planning it’s that stress will come for you eventually.
My wedding day is officially under a month away and I’ve managed to avoid stress for most of the last year that we have been actively planning. There have been a few bumps in the road, but I’ve taken important advice from my (future) sister-in-law to heart—when the wedding day arrives, it won’t matter that it’s not completely perfect. What matters is getting married to the one you love. So there’s no need to stress about it all coming together.
A couple months ago we received the news that our venue coordinator would be leaving her job for another opportunity and we would be meeting with a new coordinator for our big day. To say this shake up has been stressful would be a huge understatement. Part of the reason we booked our wedding venue was because of the coordinator; while everyone else we met had been sweet but professional, Jessica was someone we felt connected to from the second we met her. Now, we have a new coordinator that we’re struggling to connect with, and I can just feel my aura of calm hanging on by a thread. Add that to a number of guests who haven’t RSVP’d on time and a never-ending to-do list… Well, I could definitely use a drink or two.
Since alcohol doesn’t solve everything, I put together a list of ways to really relax and de-stress. I find I need all the help I can get during this final countdown, so I figured other engaged couples could use some help too.
Without further ado:
Take a soak in the tub
Yeah, I know, I’m always talking about baths. But that’s because they are such a reliable method for R&R! Here’s a post I made of everything you need to make bath time the best possible experience. I recently received a new bath bomb and a sugar scrub at my bridal shower, and I think testing out new bath products is a fun way to focus on something different for a change.
Turn off electronic devices
If you’re planning a wedding, then you’re probably spending a lot of time on your phone, tablet, or computer finalizing details for the big day. And trust me, I know how maddening it can be when you’ve spent the whole day researching and coming up empty. Take a day out of your week to cut the cord and escape the planning. Turn all your devices off, go on a walk around the block, and breathe in the fresh air. You can pick back up your to-do list tomorrow.
Engage in your favorite hobby
You know your favorite past times you’ve been neglecting for the last few months? There’s no time like the present to pick them back up. It’ll help you feel like yourself again, that version of yourself before the wedding madness took over. I can’t remember the last time I read a book or knitted something for myself, so it’s my goal to do more of that in these last few weeks. Along with blogging and engaging in a few fall activities.
Wind down with a movie and a drink
What better way to escape reality for a couple hours? Grab a glass of wine or make your favorite cocktail, and watch that movie you’ve been meaning to get to for months. Or better yet, go out and see a movie! Treat yo self to that overpriced ticket, because you’re worth it 😉
Plan a romantic night with your love
As the days get closer and the stress becomes unbearable, take some time to remind yourselves why you’re doing this in the first place—because you want to spend forever together. Whether you plan a night out on the town or on the couch, don’t forget to show each other some love. And talk about anything but the wedding. Your lives together are about so much more than the wedding and you deserve to pay attention to other things for a moment.
Ask for help!
Last, but not least, do not be afraid to delegate tasks to other people. I guarantee you’ve had friends and family offer help. How many times have you politely declined their assistance? If you’re like me, you certainly have, because you don’t want to feel like a burden. But it’s time you start accepting help when it’s offered, because it will go a long way in helping you feel less stressed over your to-do list. I’ve had so much help in the last few weeks and I couldn’t imagine how much harder I would have made it on myself if I hadn’t reached out to my loved ones.
As you can see, the main focus is on self-care and treating yourself. Make sure you’re giving yourself a mental break during this busy time; don’t postpone it until the wedding is over, because mental breaks are just as important now!
Do you have any tips on how you de-stressed before your wedding day? I’d love to read your advice! 🙂